The Road is Hard – Part II

Remember some time ago I did a post by this title? I talked about a few things, including my close encounters with the road while learning to blade. Besides that literal hard road I also discussed a bit about the crossroads I have been at with work and finding some kind of work/life balance. I received a ton of really helpful and supportive input from my dear readers so thought you might like to know where I’m going with this.
A couple of weeks ago I gave you a link to a press release from my employer in which they mentioned shutting down some plants at our site. We knew that this was coming, sometime within the next year or two. Nobody knew just when they would do it. So, that announcement came out and the impact at our site is that 30% of the asset base is going away and about 100 Dow jobs would go away along with another 70 or so contractor jobs.

After days of intense analyzing, sleepless nights, and soulsearching, I opted to put my name on the list of ‘people interested in leaving’. I really could see my job going away, or rather, the need for two analytical leaders wouldn’t be there anymore. My boss suggested that I could be the single leader but my heart wasn’t telling me that I should follow that path. I really decided that if I could leave and get a separation package at the same time, it would make it so much easier to move down the road I have been heading for anyway.
So last week I found out that I will be released (sounds so much nicer than terminated, doesn’t it?). I’m really glad actually and look forward to spending some time as a stay at home mom. Part of the separation package is access to an outside consulting company who can help you assess career change options and what not. I will take advantage of that and plan to go back into some kind of work when the kids are older and our family life is more manageable. I will be working until the end of the year then I’m done. Yay!

Oh, and a friend of mine asked me what perfumes those are in my mousepad photo (in the last post). mousepadsmall.jpg
Left to right, back row:

Carthusia ‘Fiori di Capri’, Escada ‘Magnetism’, Frederic Malle ‘Musc Ravageur’, Giorgio ‘Red’, i Profumi di Firenze ‘Caterina di Medici’ (don’t wear this anymore), Gobin Daudé ‘Seve Exquise’.

Left to right, front row:

Boucheron ‘Boucheron’ parfum, Nina Ricci ‘L’air du Temps’, Jean Desprez ‘Bal a Versailles’, Nanadebary ‘Nanadebary’ (don’t wear this much anymore) , Clive Christian ‘No. 1’, Creed ‘Tubereuse Indiana’

From the other picture:


Favorites that I wear a lot that aren’t on the mousepad are Viktor and Rolf ‘Flowerbomb’, Hermes ‘Ambre Narguile’, Givenchy Oblique Rewind, and Susanne Lang ‘Vanilla Coconut’.

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37 Responses to The Road is Hard – Part II

  1. Meow says:

    Wow, good on you for giving it all a go. I took what we call a “retrenchment package” back in 1993, when my company was closing down, and have been a stay at home mum ever since (although initially, I wasn’t a mum yet !!!) Hope all goes well for you.
    Take care, Meow

  2. M says:

    Wonderful post, Kyahgirl. You have lots to look forward to in your “life after Dow”. As I mentioned when we got together last week, I’ve had my best summer ever and am surprised how little I miss my job. I think your choice will work out very well for you.

    thanks for listing all the perfumes. What was the one you had donated to the charity auction last week? Was it Gio by Armani?

    hope you have time to go for a walk again sometime soon.

  3. Doug says:

    Congratulations, Laura. This will be good, I think. Now you’ll have time for blading.

  4. weirsdo says:

    Salary: $$$$$$
    Productivity: $$$$$$
    More time with your kids before they get too big to appreciate you: priceless.

  5. weirsdo says:

    Just wanted to add, I don’t want to offend anyone and am not against women working or oblivious to the rewards of job satisfaction, but if the spirit moves you, I do think it is a great thing to do to be with your kids more.

  6. kyahgirl says:

    Meow-I didn’t know that about you. Thanks, I’m sure it will work out well.

    M-I suspect you’re right. Think how many more walks we’ll be able to squeeze in 🙂
    And the one I gave to the auction was Acqua di Gio. Not sure if that’s the same one you’re thinking of. Kind of green and summery.

    Doug-thanks! That’s an angle I didn’t really consider but I think you’re right. Due to the pesky snow I’ll have to work out indoors for half the year but the rest of the time I can get outside. Casper will love that too!

    Wiersdo-You could do a MasterCard commercial! I don’t think you’re offending anyone. Certainly not me. Some people get really militant about the choices, one way or another, but I think that you need to just do what works best for your own life. Gosh, if someone wants to look down on me or you for working or for not working, that says more about them then us!

  7. neva says:

    Laura: i have a feeling this is going to turn into an amazing period in your life, one in which you are challenged and fulfilled in ways you’ve only imagined! i think it marks the beginning of something VERY exciting for you, i really do! a woman with your intellect and ability, not to mention compassion and humor, is destined to do great things. i salute you for making the tough decision to take the early “release” from a company that may have been holding you back from your true potential.

    enjoy your time with your family, even as you allow yourself the joy of exploring the possibilities that await you when you’re ready!

    oooh… and thanks for the names of the perfumes, actually, many of those bottles look familiar to my uneducated eye (not to mention nose…) as for the Susanne Lang? you sent me a sample of that, i believe, and i absolutely adore it! xox

  8. frangelita says:

    I’m really impressed with how brave you’ve been. I’m glad you feel good about it all and wish you all the best luck with it.

  9. funny thing says:

    You could always work in your garage and become an evil genius feared by all, by designing a huge mysterious machine that could destroy the world – but obviously you would then demand a lot of money NOT to use it.

    Yep. That’s what I’d do….

    Hint: If you are challenged by a superhero, don’t tie him/her to a moving wall with spikes in it.. and then admit everything (smugly) before killing him/her. You won’t get time. KILL THEM FIRST!!!
    I know what I’m talking about.

  10. actonbell says:

    I agree with Weirsdo–time with your kids is priceless, and if you are able and want to stay home to be with them, that’s wonderful. It sounds like you’re going to love every minute of it:)
    And your perfumes sound so lovely!

  11. Miz BoheMia says:

    YAY Laura! Though transitioning may be strange, weird, even hard at times (believe me! I know a thing or two about transitions!) I am sure you are on the right path! the fact that you are leaving the job with such a package and not up and quit is admirable and I am sure that the universe has great things in store for you! We just have to take that leap and move things along and you have more than done that! I am excited to see what adventures await!


  12. kyahgirl says:

    Neva, thanks for being such a good supporter! And, as to the perfumes…if you look through the samples I think you’ll actually find most of my faves in there 🙂

    Frangelita-thank you! I don’t know how brave I am but I am excited about making a change.

    funny thing-as always, you come through with the really practical advice. Evil genius sounds like an interesting career choice. I don’t know about the killing part though.

    Actonbell-thanks. I think it will be a good thing.

    Miz B- besos! I know you are familiar with ‘transitions’ 🙂 I’ll keep you posted on ‘adventures’.

  13. Arabella says:

    Good luck with the changes. Have you thought about being a ‘nose’, or perfume consultant to the stars?
    If you’ll allow me to take advantage of your expertise sans fee and ask: how long can eau de toilette last? Life used to be simple, I wore Chanel No. 5. Then Nicole Kidman became the ‘face’ for it and it’s really put me off. My half bottle stays in the closet and I wonder when she’ll bugger off and I can wear it again!
    Meantime I’ve gone over to Hermes – 24 Faubourg.

  14. Tom & Icy says:

    You sound very thoughtful and prudent. We wish you luck and happiness.

  15. kyahgirl says:

    Arabella-thanks. As to the perfume industry? I wouldn’t want to be involved, its too commercial. I would love LOVE to spend some time at the grassroots level where the fragrances are created. Have you heard of a scent organ? It kind of looks like a big organ (church type) and the perfumer sits in the middle of it with thousands of fragrance essences laid out in a semi circle…the perfumer then begins mixing and testing scents. That would be fun!
    Eau de Toilette (EDT) is usually the more dilute formulation of a scent and is generally regarded as not as intense or lasting as long (maybe 3-4 hours). However, I’ve found that it really depends on the fragrance. I’ve had some EDT’s that last a long time and some EDP’s that hardly last at all. It really depends on the fragrance notes and how well fixed they are too. A lot of the ‘amber’ or orientals scents have better fixatives in them because there might be things like plant resins or animal based molecules which are too intense for light florals or other lighter scents.
    I have a bottle of 24 Fauborg too. Its a beautiful scent, with jasmine being the predominant note. (and I know exactly what you mean about celebrities ruining your appreciation for a scent!)

  16. kyahgirl says:

    Tom and Icy-I try so hard 🙂 thank you for the well wishes.

  17. Ariel says:

    it is wonderful that life supports your choice of heart instead of trying to make it more difficult.

    why don’t you wear the faves you don’t wear anymore anymore? you told about stopping liking a scent after a while, is that what happened? just curious. I enjoy your parfume lectures so much!

  18. kyahgirl says:

    Ariel-that’s a good question. With the Caterina di Medici, I found that there is one sharp note in the dry down that I couldn’t live with. And with the Nanadebary, I still like it very much but it has a ‘powdery’ feel so I don’t like it for everyday wear. It might be something more to wear after a bath and when going to bed. Weird I guess. The more questions you ask me, the more people will see how weird I am!! 🙂

  19. The Phoenix says:

    Best wishes with whatever path you choose from here.

  20. Kyahgirl says:

    Phoenix-thanks! 🙂 I think it will be good.

  21. Arabella says:

    Very brave to name a perfume after Catherine di
    Medici – arch-poisoner and inventer of knickers!
    Thank you for all the info.

  22. Logoâ„¢ says:

    May I stray off topic?
    The Escada fragrance made me think of something that happened while we were overseas.
    A Ford Escape drove by and our entire group of friends had clearly been in Italy too long because we were all going,
    “Ess-cah-peh? When did Ford release an SUV called Ess-cah-peh?”

    Congrats on the time with the kids and for rollerblading!

  23. Tickersoid says:

    my feeling is you’ve made the right decision.

  24. grannyp says:

    Am such an innocent, Kyahgirl, I can’t quite understand what it is you do/did. Sounds like the right decision anyway. Good luck.

  25. kyahgirl says:

    ARabella-no problemo 🙂

    Logo-that’s a funny story!


    Grannyp-I’m glad to hear there is still innocence in this world 🙂 Thanks for the well wishes. I hope everything is ok with you. I tried to find your blog yesterday but couldn’t.

  26. Margaret says:

    I am so happpy for you!
    It will be exiting ,frustrating and a great change, but you will have a wonderful time of discovery for yourself ,familly and friends.
    Once you have your new life organized you’ll wondered how you had time to work.
    stopping to “smell the roses”becomes a very doable and enjoyable activity.
    love to you

  27. Monika says:

    I am so gld you are happy with yoru final decision. And if I remember correctly…some time ago beofr ethis annoucment was made, you were pondering a life that involves more time with your kids and fmaily. If you are happy, you made teh right decission. Changes are scary soemtime sthough, but they make life exciting. have fun iwth it, breathe deeply and hug your loved ones.
    smooches from teh Penguin coming your way 🙂

  28. g says:

    I think I just daydreamed this for myself the other day – that it is so for you, I am very happy! This sounds like an amazing opportunity all around. Best of luck to you on the new path where the flowers will be just a bit more visible I bet.

    xox ~ G

  29. kyahgirl says:

    Margaret-maybe I’ll get to see you a bit more. Its still a long way to the coast but there might be more opportunities. ♥

    Monika-love those Penquin smooches.You don’t even have fish breath! 🙂

    g-thank you, I know you understand the pressures very well.

  30. pia says:

    while it can be very difficult to leave the 9-5 world, there is comfort in routine, I personally think that it was the best decision I ever made because I’m not a superwoman, and would come home from counseling people on end of life decisions too drained to do more than put on the TV

    I think being a stay at home mom, is admirable, and that you have many interests–more perfume work (?)and much to look forward to

    The career counseling that’s offered to you sounds great

  31. Kyahgirl says:

    Pia-I agree about leaving work that sucks the life out of you! I’ll let you know what becomes of the career counseling…I’m curious.

  32. jan says:

    It sounds like a good life move. Best of luck.

  33. Mike says:

    EXCELLENT move, Laura!! The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing …. you’ll never regret it when you look back. ^5!

  34. mahgwet says:

    hey, laura–

    (pardon the lack of caps; my wrist is still healing)

    so i just sorta blew through your post at first, saw the thing about rollerblading and scrolled down to the perfume part. was just about to comment on how i don’t wear nanadebary anymore because it’s so powdery, but stopped when i started reading others’ comments to you.

    went back and re-read your whole post. what happened to you is sort of what happened to me when i worked for milton bradley. now you and i will have even more in common! i think you will really love not having to run around like a nut anyore, trying to do everything and be everyone and everywhere at once.

    hey, does this mean we’ll see you on the frag board more often? :~D

    love ya.

  35. Sar says:

    I’m so happy for you Laura!!! With a package and a career counselor, and on your timetable – wow, that’s fantastic.

    Forget celebrating new year’s, this year we’ll have a welcome to the world of SAHM party in your honor.

  36. Kyahgirl says:

    Jan-thanks 🙂 I think it will be good too.

    Mike-thank you, I don’t think I’ll regret it either

    Mahgwet-I’m sorry to hear about your broken wrist. I just heard last night when I talked to Robin. yes, we do have lots in common, now including breaking bones when falling off horses 🙂 Looking forward to my big change. don’t know if I’ll be on the board more, maybe more frequently. ♥

    Sar-that sounds like a fun party to have. I’m there!! 🙂

  37. Armani has always been a favorite designer of mine. It seems the best ones always come from Italy!

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