Wha-a-a-t-t??? Eight years?

June 27, 1998 – June 27, 2006

How did that happen?
This scruffy couple:


became this cleaned up couple: (ok, well only for one day), and tied the knot.

I could blither on for ages about marriage and relationships but these two poets say it much better than I ever could. The first was read, by Nancy,  during our wedding ceremony, the second is just a long time favorite from Kahlil Gibran.
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From Anne Morrow Lindbergh’s, Gift from the Sea 

A good relationship has a pattern like a dance and is built on some of the same rules. The partners do not need to hold on tightly, because they move confidently in the same pattern, intricate yet swift and free, like a country-dance of Mozart’s. To touch heavily would be to arrest the pattern and freeze the movement, to check the endlessly changing beauty of its unfolding. There is no place here for the possessive clutch, the clinging arm, the heavy hand; only the barest touch in passing. Now arm in arm, now face to face, now back to back – it does not matter which. Because they know they are partners moving to the same rhythm, creating a pattern together, and being invisibly nourished by it. 

When the partners each love so completely that they have forgotten to ask themselves whether or not they are loved in return; when they each only know that they love and are moving to its music – then, and then only, are two people able to dance perfectly in tune to the same rhythm.


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On Marriage  



Then Almitra spoke again and said, “And what of Marriage, master?”And he answered saying:

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.

You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.

Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness,

And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another but make not a bond of love:

Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.

Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,

Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.

For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together, yet not too near together:

For the pillars of the temple stand apart,

And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.

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43 Responses to Wha-a-a-t-t??? Eight years?

  1. M says:

    Happy Anniversary to the two of you. I love the pictures.

  2. FirstNations says:

    we were married by a judge.
    just aint the same.
    happy aniversary!XO

  3. Nancy says:

    Happy Anniversary Laura and Ron! It can’t be eight years! What a wonderful loving couple you two are. You are my role models of how loving and respectful a couple should be. Love Nan. (your past maid of honor and a current spinster:))

  4. Jamie Dawn says:

    BIG congrats to you both!!!!
    What a good looking couple. Hugs and kisses!!!!
    The two readings are beautiful too.
    Enjoy celebrating together.

  5. MJ says:

    Happy Birthday you crazy couple o’ kids.

  6. logoâ„¢ says:

    Here is a little something I heard:
    Marriage is not two people spending their lives looking deep into each other’s eyes.
    It is two people standing side by side,
    facing life’s challenges together,
    with their hands on each other’s crotches.
    And from Ogden Nash:
    “To keep your marriage brimming
    With love in the loving cup,
    Whenever you’re wrong admit it,
    Whenever you’re right, shutup!”

    Happy Anniversary, sis!

  7. Joan says:

    Happy Anniversay to you both/ You are as beautiful a couple now as you were then. Many more happy ones are wished to you both,Love Joan

  8. Barngoddess says:

    Congrats!!! You two are a lovely couple. I wish you many, many, many more years together! Howz things up North? just wonderin’ Ill be travelling to N. Ontario in a month, I am excited to see my family, and eat some poutine.yummmmm………..

  9. Joel says:

    Happy Anniversary!!

  10. neva says:

    HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! you two are such a beautiful couple… may you have many years of love and joy! xox

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  12. Brian says:

    Happy Anniversary.

    Eight years ago captured a dream,
    all is possible in love so it seems,
    our future before us shone so bright,
    lost in our eyes soul’s kind light.
    dancing as one feet off the floor,
    let’s never stop we’ll always have more,
    growing in love through all of our tears,
    today we are stronger after eight years.

  13. Fred says:

    Congrats to the both of you. My 20th is this August; time really flies, doesn’t it?

  14. Kyahgirl says:

    M-thanks 🙂 Sorry to make you wait so dang long for a post!

    FN-we were married by a justice of the peace in a community hall near our home. very informal and fun 🙂

    Nan-thanks so much, I’m glad you were part of that day. I was looking through the pictures last night and that one of you and me, before the ceremony is really cute. You’re holding onto my ring and we’re both grinning. remember? I’ll scan it and send a copy.

    JD-thanks! glad you enjoyed the readings. I enjoyed going back to the ceremony and remembering it all.

    MJ-thanks! 🙂

    Logo-you and your literary quotes 🙂 You made me laugh. I really agree with the second one, that’s why I always have my mouth shut!!

    Joan – thanks to my other sis 🙂

    Barngoddess-have a great trip. Don’t eat too much Poutine! It will clog your arteries 🙂

    Joel and Neva- thanks 🙂 You two are good role models.

    Brian- thanks! and I appreciate the poem 🙂

    Fred-yes, it does fly. 🙂

  15. Whinger says:

    Congratulations! Eight years is a huge accomplishment…made it past the itch anyway. 🙂

    (Not implying you have any sort of itchy disease — the 7-year-itch.)

  16. Kyahgirl says:

    whinger- LOL, I got ya! 🙂

  17. spinny says:

    Well, that’s just about melted my bitter’n’twisted spinster heart.

    (And there’s nothing wrong with scruffy either..)

  18. frankengirl says:

    Congrats to the handsome couple, Kyahgirl & Hubby! You’re an inspiration – 🙂 I love Gift from the Sea and what a perfect passage for your wedding!

  19. Urban Chick says:

    woo! happy anniversary! (cute photos!)

    another few weeks and it’ll be eight years for me and mr chick too…

    and there i was wondering if you were okay, having not blogged for one whole week!


  20. buleria says:

    Happy Anniversary to you both!!! -e

  21. Sar says:

    Oooooh time to sing!

    Happy Anniversary
    Happy Anniversary
    Happy Anniversary
    Haaaaaaaapy Anniversary

    Happy Anniversary to the radiant Laura and her hubby. 🙂

  22. weirsdo says:

    Congratulations, but I am confused. By your reports, I judged you were around my age, but in order for that to be the case, that girl in the picture would have had to age twice as fast as normal people (your current pictures also have me doubting your word, btw). Also, I am concerned that you appear to have married a mere lad.

  23. Doug says:

    Happy anniversary! I’m only an expert on whatever the opposite of marriage is, but you all make a good looking couple.

  24. Miz BoheMia says:


    Beautiful pictures… beautiful you and handsome hubby!

    May you have many years of beauty, joy, health and happiness ahead my dear Laura!

  25. Kyahgirl says:

    spinny! so nice to see you again. Please don’t get melted spinster heart on the carpets, its so hard to get out !! 🙂

    Frankengirl-thanks. The Gift from the Sea is lovely.

    UC-glad to see you here again. No need to worry my friend ♥

    buleria-and the same to you! I know that today is your day too.

    Sar-thanks! you sing like an angel 🙂

    weirsdo-you made me laugh with that. I think I might even be a bit older than you and as for hubby, well I’m a cradle robber!! The pictures? Its all smoke and mirrors, smoke and mirrors.

    Doug-thanks. You still have time to develop expertise in this area. 🙂

    Miz B- thanks, we will do our darndest!

  26. Arabella says:

    Congratulations. You’re both luvverly in the photos.

  27. Cowgirl says:

    Happy Anniversary!

    Aww…Ya’ll clean up well!

    I am so scared of marriage…someday perhaps I’ll get hitched.

  28. Tom & Icy says:

    Happy Anniversary. I am surprised to find you and Logo are twins. Is that really so? Cool.

  29. Margaret says:

    Happy Aniversary!
    The wedding in the community hall was the best of fun.

    You both look great,after 8 eight years ,2 kids ,dogs ,and everything living can throw at you .

    It’s wonderful to have someone special to share all the joy and challage with and grow with and go forward with into the future,whatever it brings to our life here on earth.
    love to you all.

  30. Margaret says:

    Bye the way srcuffy looks great ,so did pearls and lumber jack boots ,on clean up detail after the party.

  31. Kyahgirl says:

    Arabella-thanks 🙂

    Cowgirl- *tips hat* thanks buddy. Your attitude towards marriage is healthy!

    Margaret-thanks. It was fun wasn’t it? Very little stress and fuss. perfect.

    and thanks for the reminder, I have a picture of that I should send you. 🙂

  32. actonbell says:

    Happy Anniversary! What a lovely service that must’ve been:) And the pictures are wonderful.

  33. IDV says:

    Belated Happy Anniversary!

    Oof! Sorry it’s taken a while to get here. Having completely rubbish chronometric fallout 😉

  34. Doug says:

    Lots of time, Laura

  35. That was very sweet – Happy Anniversary Laura and Ron!! Well, belated. 😉

  36. g says:

    Happy Anniversary Laura and Ron. You make a beautiful couple. May your happiness continue to grow and your wasteline stay the same (which apparently they have – inline skating).

    All the best ~ G

  37. Kyahgirl says:

    Tom and Icy-I didn’t see your comment earlier, it was caught in the spam net!
    Thanks and I sent you the scoop on my twin.

    actonbell-thanks, it WAS nice

    IDV-thank you. no worries on timing…I’m going slower these days anyway 🙂

    Doug- Yup, there is no deadline 🙂

    G- thanks. The waistlines are a constant struggle!

  38. Karen says:

    ~♥~Happy Anniversary to a wonderful couple~♥~

    ¸.•´¸.•*¨) ¸.•*¨)
    (¸.•´ (¸.•´ .•´ ¸¸.•¨¯`•.

  39. Kyahgirl says:

    Hi karen, that is so tricky! thanks 🙂

  40. ariel says:

    Happy Anniversary!!! I love the difference between the two pictures, made me laugh. lovely shots.

    marriage have many faces. I knew a couple that lived in two different countries. the woman said, we agreed that we wouldn’t let the other one go until the other one is ready, but somehow we both keep screwing our lifes up, and none of us is ever ready. that marriage lasted until the man died at old age.

  41. Kyahgirl says:

    Ariel-that’s a funny story, people are strange yes?

  42. Terry says:

    Thanks for sharing your pics – love the before and after (although I get the feeling the after reverted back to the before after the ceremony :-))

    Love the quote by Kahlil Gibran. It is often more easily said than done to keep the autonomy of oneself, as well as letting the other also be unbonded in a relationship. It is a good reminder for me.

  43. justine says:

    how on earth did Karen do that??

    That Gilbran was spot on for me today.

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